Which Thought Feels Better

Sometimes, we can go into emotional overwhelm or experience emotions we would rather not experience. One way to shift this is to go for the better feeling thought. If you are feeling total depression, it would be hard to instantly shift to absolute joy (although it is possible!). Instead, what you can do is reach for the thought that makes you feel just a little bit better than the last thought. The focus is on finding the thought that feels better so we can use our internal guidance system, which is our emotions.

For example, maybe your spouse forgot your wedding anniversary date. Your first thought could be, “He doesn’t love me anymore.” That thought doesn’t feel good, so what’s a thought that feels a bit better? “Well, he did bring me flowers the other day for no reason.” “But he forgot our wedding anniversary!” Not good, what feels better? “Maybe he forgot because he has been working on a new project that is bringing in good money for our family?” Good…keep going. “He does do a good job of providing for our family.” “He does surprise me with little gifts for no reason.” “When he is home, he does focus all of his attention on me.” “Yes, my husband does love me!”

The goal is to keep choosing thoughts that feel better. If you slip into a thought that doesn’t feel as good, don’t beat yourself up and make yourself feel worse. Just come up with something that feels better than the thought before. Feel better now?